Young adult loneliness
Living alone in your twenties is often presented as a marker of independence and success. It can be both of those things. It can also be genuinely, unexpectedly lonely — in ways that are hard to admit when independence is supposed to feel good.
Most people who lived in student housing or shared accommodation before living alone did not realise how much the ambient presence of other people was doing for them. The background noise of someone else in the flat — the sound of them moving around, making food, being there — provides a quality of company that is easy to take for granted and hard to replace. When it is gone, the silence can feel louder than you expected.
The evenings are when it tends to be most noticeable. Work provides structure and company during the day. Evenings and weekends without plans can feel very long in a way they did not before. There is no one to have a low-stakes conversation with. No one to eat with. The absence of someone to simply share the space with is particular and real.
Loneliness while living alone in your twenties carries a specific shame because it is supposed to be a good thing. You should be enjoying your freedom. You should be thriving. Admitting that you are lonely in circumstances that others envy feels like a failure of gratitude or resilience. That shame keeps the experience private, which means it is carried alone — which compounds the loneliness itself.
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